I finally finished my exams and my projects. Not all since I have one small writing project left but I won’t sweat on it since it won’t be hard and I am pretty much done with it.
I have a feeling that most people perceive me as one of those pushovers that will actually help them if they ask nicely. I don’t work for free and I always want compensation whether it is in the form of money or ice-cream. I am just that selfish. Bottom line: I will not help you for free unless if we are friends and we actually talk to each other. However, some people are just so shameless that they will ask for your help anyway even if they never say ‘hi’ to you before.
I feel like asking them these questions. If they manage to answer ‘yes’ to one of them, I would actually help them voluntarily:
- Have you ever say ‘hi’ to me when we bump into each other?
- Have you ever talk to me casually before?
- Have you ever smile at me without me smiling at you first?
- Are you one of my close friends?
- Do you ever ask me how am I regularly? How am I today?
What annoys me the most is that these people will start to act really fake and started talking to me like we have been friends for decades! What? You think I will help you so that I can gain new friends easily? Sorry, but I have too much friends that their presence suffocate me sometimes and their company is all I need. I don’t need yours.
Some Girl: Ren! I can’t believe you are here! How are you?
Ren: Fine.
Some Girl: So, lets work on [insert project name here] together.
Ren: No. I am busy.
And another one. This woman is a moron because she keeps on asking me the same question even when I say I don’t understand.
Another Girl: Hello. How are you?
Ren: Good.
Another Girl: What is the “scope” of this project?
Ren: I don’t understand
Another Girl: Hehe, so what is the scope?
Ren:….
It is very annoying because they will only ask “how are you?” when they need something from me. Why? Because they think that I will never notice their fake-ness and I would help them straight away after I say “I am fine” or “good”. Of course I turn them down. I have my own shit to worry about and I have no time to help them. Given the choice, I rather save my neck first before saving someone else unless if they are one of my close friends or if we share conversations casually from time to time.
Had to let this one out because I have been experiencing this for quite sometime now. Tell me if you ever experience the same thing. I really don’t like it when people are nice to me only when they need me and continue to ignore me once I get the job done. I am sorry but I am no pushover and I can see through you and I know that you are nothing but a fake bitch.
Yeah, this is actually normal behavior some people just have no conscience.. Take it as a compliment, this means you’re really good with a capital G in whatever you’re doing.. Mama very proud of you and keep up the good job..
Ah, I hate people like that. They only want to be your friend when they need something from you. I experienced that a lot in junior high. Everyone knew I was smart, so all the sudden they’d want to be my best friend when it came to doing partner work. I was pleasant about it, but I always scrambled to find an actual friend to work with so I wouldn’t have to be stuck with those people. I get it with my websites, too. Someone comments me twice and they think I’ll promote them or design their layout. Not for free, no way.
It’s a shame that people are like that. If they really wanted to take advantage of your kindness, they should have started warming you up earlier. That’s still bad, but to a lesser extent.
where’s the LIKE button? i guess ur website need one xD
‘Tis good that you’re not a pushover and that you’re not easily taken advantage of. You’re doing the right thing. Someone needs to tell these people that they’re being bitches, and that if there is a hell, they’re headed straight down there.
I don’t think that anybody has taken advantage of me before in that manner, and I’m glad. (I hope it’s because I scare people away with a goofy, focused aura.) Around here, people often work together on homework without ever knowing each other first at all, but that’s due to the nature of my school (things are so hard, people help each other out of desperation?), and the feelings and exchanges are mutually beneficial.
Yeah this happens a lot to me, since I’m relatively “smart” so many people approach me to help them. This is bad since I find it hard to say no to people… and also most of the people that do ask me are girls, who I find hard to say no to >.< They just ask me for notes, help them with assignments, etc and when I ask THEM for a favor, they're always too busy for me. Sometimes I feel like I help people too much, and never get appreciated for it…sigh…
Ah. The weaknesses of nice geek boys in my university as well. These boys are nice so when a hot girl ask for help, they would help the straight away. Unfortunately for these boys, they are hoping that these girls would at least appreciate them for their help. Hot girls don’t care about giving appreciation because most of them are fake bitches anyway. Moral of the story: Just don’t help. I find it hard to say ‘no’ to people too but after a while, I got used to it.
Hate those type of people. They tend to be nice when you have something to offer and then when you are down in the dumps, you don’t see them trying to help you. I only help people who I deem worthy of my help.