I hate stupid people. Unfortunately, I am surrounded by some of them and they are all in their mid 30s.
You know, I always thought that it is not good for me to be anti-social. If you know me in real life, you know that I hate going out, I hate hanging out with people other than my closest friends and I especially hate wedding invitations.
Why Ren? Why?! Wedding is such a beautiful event! You are just bitter because you don’t even have a boyfriend!
Because I need to socialize with stupid adults a.k.a family friends. I always thought that it is bad for me to be a social recluse because it is important to meet people and network (it is also how you get boyfriends and being anti-social is the reason why I am still single).
However, I finally know the reason why I am a social recluse and it is a good reason: I wanted to avoid morons. Recently, I went to a wedding. Met an obese man who is also a family friend. Of course, I can’t avoid him because some people just don’t get the message that you do not want to talk to them. Conversation went like this:
Obese Man: You’re back! No class? I thought you are in that university currently ranked one of the best in the world?
Renetta: It is my winter break.
Obese Man: Oh really? Is it a winter break or did you get expelled because you can’t keep up? Tee hee.
Renetta: It is my winter break. And no, they won’t expel me because I am not a moron like you.
Obese Man: Hahaha! You know what I like to tell my nieces? Don’t study too hard; they won’t get anywhere because they are women. They can’t get far.
Renetta: I feel sorry for all your niece. They have a [insert extreme Malaysian Hokkien swearing word here] as an uncle.
Obese Man: What did you say?
Renetta: You heard me. Just stop talking.
These types of conversations happened quite often in a wedding ceremony. I decided to post this one because it is recent and it shows that this man is a sexist pig. But then again, he is not very well-educated; he never even got the chance to enter a local university because his grades are so bad that they rejected his application. You tend to expect such ignorant comments from dumbasses like him. Just to make myself feel better, I told myself that he is just jealous that I got a chance to study in a university of my choice. 
There is also another type of adults that I hate: provokers. Provokers are dumb people with low-self esteem who loves to make annoying comments about you because it makes them feel good. Here is a conversation between my mom and one of her moronic colleagues:
Moron: (talking about a student who is currently studying in his alma mater; this student created an iPad application that can help track criminals) Which university your daughter is in? [Insert my university name here]? Hah! They don’t even have students like this guy over here.
Mom: My daughter’s university ranked higher than your alma mater. Get over it and stop trying to provoke me.
Moron: Ah whatever, but it is not even in the top 10.
Mom: Whatever it is, my daughter is better than you, you fucking moron!
Moron: *startled* *walks away quietly* (certainly did not expect the “fucking moron” part)
*sobs* Proud of mom; She got balls of steel!
I am very loyal when it comes to my university. Who doesn’t, right? I am sure that you are proud about which university you came from. Doesn’t matter which university it is. You would always be proud with it because it will always be very close to your heart; it is another important chapter in your life and it is where you meet your secondary family members. And listening that this guy is trying to talk shit about my university, it certainly pissed me off. And my mom? She is just a tiger mother who is protecting her baby cub from being taunt by this loser.
Oh well, it doesn’t matter which university I came from anyway. What matter is the individual themselves. You can be a graduate from one of the top universities but if you are not a motivated person who is not interested in challenging yourself to do awesome things, that piece of paper you achieved from your university will just be a normal piece of paper.
If you visited my blog before, I did disclosed which university I am currently studying in on my about page. I removed it since I don’t want to disclose my location.
My mom is similar to me; she doesn’t like to socialize as well. I guess her reason is the same as mine: we want to avoid morons.
But then again, the term “social recluse” or “anti-social” is not always valid when you are describing Renetta Renula. I turned into a social butterfly when I am in a conference; it excites me when I see people that shares the same interest as me and I just want to talk to them more and get to know them.
If you plan to get married in the next few weeks or few months, please don’t invite me. xoxo
I do remember where you are going to school, and I applied to grad school there because it is really good at robotics.
You and your mom are awesome people. It’s too bad that not everyone is as smart as you. I would love it if people were all as smart and badass as you and your mom. I like that in the blogging world, I can surround myself with smart people and ignore the dumb ones.
Oh yay! I am so happy to know that you apply to my school! I hope that you’ll get accepted, Stephie! I am pretty sure you will get accepted. My school loves students who are passionate about their majors and I know that you are passionate when it comes to robotics. You mentioned a lot of times on your blog that you love fiddling with robots!
Same here! I hate, hate going to weddings because of all my moron relatives who just like to backbite about other families =__= And asking me when I’ll get married. Gosh, like fuck off already, why the heck would I get married at 20? This is not the 1950s anymore people!
OMG, your mum really said “fucking moron” to someone? Ahaha, your mama is the coolest!
Oh yeah, the same old joke between “expired” aunties and old people: “so when is your turn to get married? tee hee hee”.
True that, yo! It is not the 1950s anymore, assholes! And yes! Mom did said that! *sigh* I love my mom. So bad ass. <3
you amaze me in so many ways, speaking up to people certainly not easy. you are the epitome of positivism and balanced negativity (in my own view).
Wow, that is a very nice description of me. I’ve never seen myself that way before.
I love all your friends comments. Thank you so much everyone for supporting my girl. I especially like Han’s comment. I do agree Ren Aysha has a very positive outlook as well as a balanced negative attitude. She’ll just say her mind without a care.. I have a laissez faire parenting style so I usually let Ren and Iman (her younger sister) do whatever they want and say whatever they wanna say. Other adults may find them ‘rude’ but I don’t care because rude people even if they are adults deserve rude answers.. I just smile but when I see the situation blinking red ‘mayday, mayday’, I’d usually divert my daughters attention and engage with them in some random topic conversation. Ignoring the rude bastard..
Being Asian, I am also a bit of a ‘Tiger Mummy’, so Ren knows I do have high expectation from her. But she’s rewarded well whenever she fulfills my expectations. My justification about rewards to my off-spring is simple (there are some friends who tell me that I am spoiling my children as I reward them everytime they do well academically).
I told my friend, if during their Performance Management Review at work and they’ve done very well and the Company they work in don’t give them bonuses, share options or other employment benefits, will they be disappointed? Would they still work hard for that Company they are working in? They said, no. They’ll try to find another job & not work so hard..
Well I said, that’s exactly why I am always rewarding my daughters for a job well done. They’ll feel appreciated for their hardwork and will strive to work harder.. If not rewarded, why should they want to work harder? Human nature – feels good when hardwork is appreciated..
Today, I bought a Lesport Sac backpack for Iman but she can’t use it until she Ace her Physics, Chemistry and Math papers. I hang the backpack in her room where she can see it but can’t use it until she fulfills my demand.. Yeah, I know.. I’m mean right hahaha.
Btw, Ren Aysha, the Obese Man gave us a Persian cat today. His maid quits (this is I think maid number 13) so nobody can take care of that cat, so he wants me to have it because he knows I take care of my cats well
Will post a pic of the cat for you to see later +__O
I HATE social events too! If I don’t HAVE to go then I won’t. I never ever ever…liked weddings and now that I am having one I am making it a simple party with only close friends and family. No second cousins from some unknown uncle etc…
Amen. This is the second reason I hate going to social events. There are always some morons that I don’t know. The first reason would be that social events are boring of course.
Nice conversations, aha. That obese man really is a douchebag who thinks he’s funny when he’s ridiculous. But I never would be able to say that to a family friend. I’d get yelled at. Whenever I act like that I get a lecture from my mom, and a “Why do you think you’re so good?” from my dad. I’ve actually had anyone like the moron talk to my parents before, but I’ve had plenty of people say that kind of stuff to me. People with no life.
Unfortunately I’m not proud of my university, nor my high school. I find it hard to be proud of a “group” I belong in. However that doesn’t mean I’m okay with stupid people who don’t know shit talking about my schools. So basically same concept?
I hate morons too, but wow, those people are beyond moronic, they’re downright rude! What happened to “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”?? Sorry you had to put up with that sort of crap, I know if I had to deal with that I wouldn’t like going to weddings either.
PS. Your mom is pretty badass
LOL I wish our weddings here were that fun..
I myself am anti-social and I been like that pretty much my whole adult life. I would rather stay at home draw on my walls, code a website ,watch moves be artistic in whatever then to go out clubbing for example and even if i do go out its just to have coffee with a few close friends, sometimes go out and see a movie or gather at a friends house and torture her baby. Thats as far as my social skills go… Preferring to be alone then with company is just a part of ones personality and I dont believe theres a particular reason behind it. well… thats what i think at least. but if thats truly your reason then a awesome one it is. XD
your mommy rocks btw <3