Insecure (But Not So Insecure) Girls

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There are girls who are extremely insecure sometimes. However these types of girls are genuinely insecure that they try to hide and not really say anything about it. I don’t mind these types of girls. I believe everyone has their own insecurities from time to time. What I can’t stand is girls who used their insecurities for attention. I am pretty sure some of you had heard this kind of quotes before:

Attention Whore: I am so fat and ugly! Ugh! *Expects her friends to say “No, you’re not! You are very skinny and pretty!*

One of my friends is fat and she loves saying these types of things. It makes me feel awkward at times because I don’t know how to continue the conversation once she start bringing up that she is fat or ugly. To be honest, it makes me feel uncomfortable. I can’t say, “No, you are not fat! You are very skinny!” because I’ll be lying. Plus, I hate entertaining girls like this. Sometimes, I tired to boost up her confidence by saying things like, “Maybe we can go to the gym together! Lets lose weight!” or “Self-confidence is hot. I think this is more important to have confidence than physical beauty”. But it just doesn’t work since she will continue throwing a pity party. It seems to me that they are seeking attention and expect me to say something nice in return.

Ren: Ah, yes. Don’t worry about getting a boyfriend. There is no need to rush actually.
Attention Whore: Yeah, of course you have nothing to worry about. You’re skinny but I am so fat that they won’t even look at me and I am not that pretty.
Ren: … *feels really awkward*

She does this quite frequently and it makes me feel awkward since I don’t know what to say. She did this to some other friends and some of them said things like, “No! You’re not fat!” or “I saw pictures when you were younger! You look so hot!“. And the attention whore would smile and say, “Really? Thank you!“.

I have a habit of saying, “I know, right?” when I am having a conversation with my friends. It sorts of acts like a reflex, especially when I agree with my friend with what she is saying. For example,

Friend: I think the Ruby on Rails framework is just dead sexy. Makes it really fast to create an app straight away. It does all the dirty work for you!
Ren: I know, right?!

Sometimes, my “I know, right?” reflexes made me sound really mean:

Attention Whore: I am so fat and not that pretty. So it is hard for me to get a boyfriend.
Ren: I know, right?!
Attention Whore: *gives Ren a dirty look*
Ren: Uh..umm..I..I didn’t mean…you’re not…uh…I..I need to go to the bathroom.

I just wish she would stop saying those kinds of things because it made me feel really awkward. Usually, I just keep quiet or I just change the subject. I wouldn’t entertain her by lying; if she really worries about her weight, she should do something about it. Put some effort and actually go to the gym. Throwing a pity party will not get you anywhere and it is a waste of time.

I do have acquaintances who are slim and lean but likes to say that they are fat just to fish for compliments.

Skinny Bitch: I am so fat and I think I need to lose weight!
Another Girl: No! You are very skinny and pretty!
Skinny Bitch: Nah, I am not.
Another Girl: You are pretty!
Skinny Bitch: Really? Thank you!

So annoying. The reason why I sometimes can’t stand girls. I have a lot of girlfriends; we hang out and chill together. But most of them are bright and intelligent. They are confident in their own skin and don’t really throw a pity party or try to fish for compliments. I am happy that I made friends with these girls.

High Heels Are For Dumb Girls

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I love high heels but I can’t find the energy to wear them. I remembered when I told one of my friends about how I can’t walk flawlessly in heels but he just replied by saying, “High heels are meant for dumb girls. You don’t need them.”

He is not the only one who thinks high heels are for air-headed girls. I was pointing out a girl who was wearing a 5 inch heels to another friend of mine:

Ren: Check out that high heels on that girl! That is pretty cute! Some of the girls here are pretty fashionable.

Friend: Yeah. The height of their heels are inversely proportional to their brain.

I don’t agree with him that high heels are only meant for girls who are not academically gifted. Geeky girls who are fashion conscious can wear them too. However, I can’t help but notice that there is a bit of truth in what he was saying. I noticed that most of the intelligent girls (who often get into dean’s list or are widely known for their talent in their own respective majors) tend to wear flat shoes, flip flops or plain sandals. Most of the girls who are not as academically gifted (some are very moronic) tend to wear high heels that are no less than 3 inches high. I know that this is very stereotypical since it is a just based on my daily observations but I hate to think that some of my friends believe high heels are only for dumb girls just because they seldom see geeky or smart girls in heels.

As one of the studious students, I have to say that I do not like wearing heels because it is just not practical. I love wearing flats; it is very convenient: slide in, slide out and just run whenever you are late for class. I won’t be able to run to my classes in a 5 inch heels right? I guess this is how most of the studious students feel. We value practicality and we don’t give a damn about our looks. At least I don’t and I don’t mind walking to class with my pyjamas.

Two days ago, I went to a premium outlet here and I can’t take my eyes off from this nice pair of high heels. I try it out and it fits me. I tried walking with it for a bit and it wasn’t so bad. The sole of the shoe attracted me the most since it is really unique and it seduced me. I just can’t resist and ended up buying them.

Hi assholes. Would you like me to print this sole on your face? If you do, please keep on talking. – Ren’s thoughts when she first saw the heels.

And yes, it is a 5 inch heels. And yes, I am going to put them on and walk, walk, walk. I have been told many times that I am tall for an Asian girl. I stand at 5’8″ and that is around 173cm according to Wolfram Alpha. So, wearing this heels would definitely boost up my height even more. Mom told me that I look at least 6 foot tall with those heels on.

Personally, I don’t think so high heels are only meant for dumb girls and I don’t think girls who loves wearing them are dumb. My aunt loves wearing heels and she is one of the smartest women that I know. I guess I should just put this heels on and show them that stereotyping girls based on their shoes are just stupid. Besides, there is no harm in looking sexy once in a while, don’t you think? ;)

Old Facebook Status: Dr Seuss’s Quote

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I have a habit of posting weird Facebook statuses. This is one of them, written 2 years ago:

I saw a quote one day and it pissed me off. It says: “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” Logically it does not make any sense because if I like to walk naked around the house (because that is what I do if I am being myself), my mom would mind and she does matter!!!

I just realized that it is not a matter of “doing something”. The quote is saying that you can say whatever you want to say and it doesn’t matter if people judge you. BUT! If I say that lady gremlin is a smelly, ugly and a dumb bitch (because that is what I do if I am being myself), my grandma would mind and she does matter!

I mellowed down a lot on Facebook nowadays. Just don’t post as much weird and rude (well, not that rude) stuff as I used to. I’ve matured and I am now a very demure and kind young lady (HAHAHAHAAHAHAAA!!!)